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Reflections from a recovering human
A quick Sunday thank you to all the Sober Identity followers. This blog has afforded me, not only the opportunity to share the principles in the book, but the warm friendship of fellow journeyers. The quality of my sobriety (aka my life) has been enriched beyond measure. What …
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I have a profound respect for those who manage to get sober this time of the year. The near impossible requirements of early sobriety are amplified at holidays. This was the time of year most of us seemed to fit in—finally, everyone else was drinking excessively too. We …
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Desperation … That crumbling moment when I will say or do anything, so as not to receive the natural, yet now unacceptable, consequences. It is the unveiled realization that I have set my standards well below my own tolerance. In the guise of this awareness I am willing …
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This is the actual private journal entry I wrote when struggling for the words to this week’s post. It seemed to morph—quickly. Too quickly. Then I thought to share some of my deeper personal thoughts (dialogues) as this has become my favorite tool for coping with my internal …
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The one consistent action that alcoholics in recovery (not to be confused with in abstinence) perform is putting all their troubles on the ‘table’. This is a physical or metaphysical place depending on the individual. If I continually overlook this process, I will inevitably find myself in pain: physical and/or …
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… Don’t say it. The Wednesday night mantra. And like any good irritant the issue and the mantra rolled right into Thursday morning. God must have been on hiatus when the vote came in to let me parent. I am confident, at these overly charged moments, that …
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frag•ment n. a part broken off or detached, isolated, unfinished, or incomplete part origin: 1530s, from L. fragmentum “ a fragment, remnant.” From the root of frangere “to break” (fraction) ¹ Fractions can be a difficult concept for kids to learn. How can there be less than a whole? …
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This was—is—the hardest of principles for me to grasp. Yet when I, even slightly, welcome this notion, I am somehow nudged to see the situation anew. This is my very least favorite moment of personal growth. In part, I have tried to avoid these moments, but this too …
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Everything. I spent most of my years searching for love. It was those few missing pieces from the 1000 piece puzzle. I army crawled the carpet, sifted the vacuum bag—twice. The puzzle was eventually moved back to the box. I never enjoyed the 997 correctly placed pieces nor …
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