This post finds me at a crossroad. I want to talk about recovery … the sober life … But I feel like a hypocrite. So in the spirit of authenticity I will talk today about the personal hurdles I am facing these next weeks. Without detail I am …
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A day to pay tribute to your mom. As a woman who (finally) works at living a spirit-filled and principled life, I am struck by the irony of who I was as a daughter. My sweet mom had her work cut out for her. It seemed all fine …
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Let’s say, for conversation, that we actually found the “magic key” to controlling our drinking. Its magic actually stops the craving—today. What would this actually mean for addicts? There are at least two obvious answers and myriad more, but for conversation let’s stick to the obvious. Scenario I: …
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We speak these words often as addicts. They seem to fly out of our mouth upon exhale—regularly—even after we have gotten sober. I remember believing if I said sorry I was absolved of my behavior, my responsibility. If I blacked-out it wasn’t my fault, it was the alcohol’s …
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I remember hangovers about as much as I remember childbirth. Only if I try, but it’s not on my checklist of tasks for today. It’s not that I tried to forget. It’s that it just leaves, seemingly disappears. I am left with the softer memories. While this is …
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The Beginning You were already there when I walked in the room. Everyone loved you and wanted to be with you. I was intrigued, but a little scared. Someone suggested I would feel better if I got to know you. I hesitantly agreed. I didn’t want to know …
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It’s easier to think about new tasks than do new tasks. The scenario for me goes something like this: 6:00 am — Peace-filled, committed, serene, accepting, spiritually grounded. 9:00 am — Engaged in the day intellectually. Noon — Less engaged spiritually and more easily swayed by internal conversation. 3:00 …
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It’s difficult, near impossible, for addicts to see the self-centeredness that has crystallized within the subconscious mind. The pace of the hardening, so slow, goes unnoticed to most addicts. We have left a wake of destruction behind us and still we are looking for our needs to be …
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Early in my recovery the very mention of Christmas was a trigger. I got sober in March. How in the heck was I going to make until Christmas without a drink? Even if I made it to Christmas surely I would not survive the holidays without a libation …
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“The average person, over time, has a tendency to stop pursuing new goals. We believe that dreaming, creativity, and inspiration are for the young, forgetting that we always have life ahead of us. We feel that if we were going to arrive, we should have done so already. …
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