Confusion tells me …

Whenever you are confused it is because you don’t have all the information.  It’s that simple.

How often do you walk around telling others “I’m confused, I just don’t know what to do”?  Then you don’t do anything except tell more people you’re confused.

You will become unconfused when you do a little foot work, a little research … so to speak.  The reasons one doesn’t make a decision are wide-ranging, however, here are some of the obvious ones:

  • We love the attention we get by having a “story” … it makes people feel sorry for us (or irritated, whichever the case may be).
  • We are accustomed to being and staying stuck.  It’s so ingrained in our psyche that we think it’s a normal way to function.
  • We’re lazy and we just don’t want to do the work.  It seems easier to wait and see what happens.
  • Confusion makes us feel busy … we like being busy … we like having something to worry about because it makes us feel important, feel alive.  If we’re feeling unconfused, we must not be pushing hard enough.  We always need something to worry about.
  • We think we are actually in control of everything (in the universe) and that if we aren’t worrying about it, then it isn’t getting taken care of.

Here are some tools for overcoming your confusion:

  • Do the footwork.  Ask the questions and get your answers!  Spend “x” amount of time on the issue and then make an educated or inspired decision.
  • Stick with your decision … regardless of the challenges.
  • Exercise some discipline, (some dedication) in the choice you made.  Flipping back and forth gets us back into “confusion.”
  • If you must talk about it with others (and you will), be open to the solution, don’t get stuck in “the story” … most people are burned out on our drama anyway.
  • Last, but certainly not least, develop some techniques for quieting your mind (meditation, guided imagery) … you will be amazed at the clarity you receive within the quiet.

Confusion is a habit. A habit we can grow away from.

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