The 12-step model is effective but not universally applicable in recovery. Many individuals successfully navigate recovery without attending meetings. Emphasizing personal growth and spiritual foundations, recovery should not be strictly defined by 12-step participation. Support should focus on unconditional love rather than conformity, enabling diverse paths to personal evolution and self-love in the journey of recovery.
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Love
I am still trying to explain the awesomeness of recovery to those new in recovery. It’s a challenging topic to describe because there is no logical point of reference for something you’ve never experienced. What I try my best to convey: If you can just dig in for …
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As a coach by occupation and a spiritual seeker by nature I find my world is riddled with more questions than answers. Even when I find an answer it begets more questions. I am learning to acquiesce to this apparently never ending cycle of learning. But I’m not …
Read more →Like much of humanity I have believed aesthetic beauty as real beauty. And by beauty I mean (shamefully) more worthy. As if a thing is more loveable because it possesses appeal. Sight, via my eyes, was my pathway to beauty or lack of. My longing to be visually …
Read more →This is the actual private journal entry I wrote when struggling for the words to this week’s post. It seemed to morph—quickly. Too quickly. Then I thought to share some of my deeper personal thoughts (dialogues) as this has become my favorite tool for coping with my internal …
Read more →The one consistent action that alcoholics in recovery (not to be confused with in abstinence) perform is putting all their troubles on the ‘table’. This is a physical or metaphysical place depending on the individual. If I continually overlook this process, I will inevitably find myself in pain: physical and/or …
Read more →… Don’t say it. The Wednesday night mantra. And like any good irritant the issue and the mantra rolled right into Thursday morning. God must have been on hiatus when the vote came in to let me parent. I am confident, at these overly charged moments, that …
Read more →Everything. I spent most of my years searching for love. It was those few missing pieces from the 1000 piece puzzle. I army crawled the carpet, sifted the vacuum bag—twice. The puzzle was eventually moved back to the box. I never enjoyed the 997 correctly placed pieces nor …
Read more →I have simply been unwilling to do what needs to be done. There is no two ways about it. I have chosen servitude over sovereignty. The choice to get sober is not drudgery. The choice to get sober is the choice to love. Sobriety isn’t about giving up. …
Read more →I vividly remember looking at my parents and thinking how screwed up adults were. At a young age I had some, not so pleasant, words to share with God. It was a soliloquy of sorts—God being the audience. I didn’t yet know how to hear Him. Nonetheless, I …
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