Like much of humanity I have believed aesthetic beauty as real beauty. And by beauty I mean (shamefully) more worthy. As if a thing is more loveable because it possesses appeal. Sight, via my eyes, was my pathway to beauty or lack of. My longing to be visually …
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5 Key Competencies
Words could never adequately re-create this past week of my life. It was a week of excitement, fear, anger, pain, sickness, confrontation, negotiation, silence, gratitude, migraines, and reflection. The parallels to my alcohol detox are prevalent, but in more ways than I suspected. In the spirit of “Competency …
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This post finds me at a crossroad. I want to talk about recovery … the sober life … But I feel like a hypocrite. So in the spirit of authenticity I will talk today about the personal hurdles I am facing these next weeks. Without detail I am …
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A day to pay tribute to your mom. As a woman who (finally) works at living a spirit-filled and principled life, I am struck by the irony of who I was as a daughter. My sweet mom had her work cut out for her. It seemed all fine …
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The OGEL group started working on the 5-Key Competencies this month. Like many, it takes more than one go through for me to really embody new principles. I grew up believing that memorizing the information was good enough. But once the test was finished the information moved to …
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Let’s say, for conversation, that we actually found the “magic key” to controlling our drinking. Its magic actually stops the craving—today. What would this actually mean for addicts? There are at least two obvious answers and myriad more, but for conversation let’s stick to the obvious. Scenario I: …
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The word competency comes from the root word competent which means having the capacity to function or develop in a particular way.[i] Competent is “derived from the Latin word competentia, meaning ‘meeting together, agreement, symmetry.’”[ii] Being competent declares that we are capable. At first, we may only be …
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He does X—I do Z. He does X—I do Z. Wait… I’m sober now. I don’t want to do Z anymore. “Stop doing X so I can stop doing Z.” I tell him. “WHAT are you talking about?” he retorts. Sure pretends like he doesn’t know what he’s …
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The way we approach our sobriety is the way we approach life. We hate this parallel. We liked to think we were proficient in most areas and that our drinking was the only problem we possessed. We were shocked to realize that our alcoholic drinking was the effect …
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The single reason we bomb at sobriety is our failure to comprehend the significance and value of personal evolution. Successful sobriety is evolution. Long-term sobriety,a quality life, these are the byproducts of development. This process of recovery is not a onetime trip. It’s an ongoing journey. Within the …
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