We are tethered: the addict and the one-who-loves-the-addict. We don’t experience our life separate from those we love. Just because we aren’t in the same room doesn’t mean our actions aren’t detrimental. We each tug the other through our action—or lack of. What we do matters—for both of …
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It’s Easy … It’s easy to listen attentively … when you are saying words I want to hear. It’s easy to offer more … when I am certain you are giving more. It’s easy to have patience … when the situation is not filled with noise. It’s easy …
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Every so often the topic of truth appears. Today marks one of those days for me. I’ve had a week where I’ve watched others—and at moments myself—struggle to get the truth out of their mouth. Why, I ponder, do we seek to veil the truth? What is it …
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Ever wonder why you don’t understand sober people? Confused by sober vernacular? Struggling to identify concepts or principles shared by your mentor, coach, sponsor, or sober-cyber pals? Today’s post is a mini-lesson in making sense of applying another’s advice, suggestion, or philosophy to your recovery. What they …
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No one can do for us what we must do for ourself. Simple in theory … challenging nonetheless. While the purpose of this blog is to facilitate spiritual growth in addicts, it is not limited to those who are new to sobriety. This journey in life does not …
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The world feels like hype. Everything seems exacerbated and overly-epic. Everything has so much meaning, that none of it has meaning. The rawer I get the rawer the world gets. I am questioning everything I have ever been taught. I am feeling miniscule with my limited answers. I …
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Words could never adequately re-create this past week of my life. It was a week of excitement, fear, anger, pain, sickness, confrontation, negotiation, silence, gratitude, migraines, and reflection. The parallels to my alcohol detox are prevalent, but in more ways than I suspected. In the spirit of “Competency …
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A day to pay tribute to your mom. As a woman who (finally) works at living a spirit-filled and principled life, I am struck by the irony of who I was as a daughter. My sweet mom had her work cut out for her. It seemed all fine …
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The OGEL group started working on the 5-Key Competencies this month. Like many, it takes more than one go through for me to really embody new principles. I grew up believing that memorizing the information was good enough. But once the test was finished the information moved to …
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Let’s say, for conversation, that we actually found the “magic key” to controlling our drinking. Its magic actually stops the craving—today. What would this actually mean for addicts? There are at least two obvious answers and myriad more, but for conversation let’s stick to the obvious. Scenario I: …
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