Relapse is what brands us ‘addicts’. Non-addicts aren’t trying to stop, monitor, or manage their alcohol intake. It’s a non-issue for them. And, any addict who says they never relapsed is lying. People … it’s what gets us in the club. We may have stayed clean since ‘detox’ or …
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choices
My last September Sunday to squeeze in a post. In the spirit of keeping my “monthly post” commitment I’m getting this up here today. It’s a little less polished than I prefer, but—oh well. Personal stuff: Life is good, as my perceptions continue to transform. I am happy …
Read more →Today I am sharing a book review by Lee Davy on Sober Identity: Tools for Reprogramming the Addictive Mind. While the majority of my commenting readers are sober, many readers that show up on these pages are not. My hope is that you will read this review and …
Read more →I tentatively side-stroke toward the Paradisus pool bar in Cancun. It’s packed with spring-breakers eager for their cocktails. It’s all inclusive. Translation: It’s already paid for. I can drink for free. I can do this. I will get my diet soda and glide away. Easy breezy. There—six inches …
Read more →When does one push? When does one coast? … A long time dilemma for me as a person; I was never clear on “the rules” for succeeding at life. I would bolt or cower when it was time to step up. I would detonate when silence could have …
Read more →We are tethered: the addict and the one-who-loves-the-addict. We don’t experience our life separate from those we love. Just because we aren’t in the same room doesn’t mean our actions aren’t detrimental. We each tug the other through our action—or lack of. What we do matters—for both of …
Read more →It’s Easy … It’s easy to listen attentively … when you are saying words I want to hear. It’s easy to offer more … when I am certain you are giving more. It’s easy to have patience … when the situation is not filled with noise. It’s easy …
Read more →Ever wonder why you don’t understand sober people? Confused by sober vernacular? Struggling to identify concepts or principles shared by your mentor, coach, sponsor, or sober-cyber pals? Today’s post is a mini-lesson in making sense of applying another’s advice, suggestion, or philosophy to your recovery. What they …
Read more →I remember hangovers about as much as I remember childbirth. Only if I try, but it’s not on my checklist of tasks for today. It’s not that I tried to forget. It’s that it just leaves, seemingly disappears. I am left with the softer memories. While this is …
Read more →Somewhere deep inside of us there is a sweet and loving voice encouraging us to make the right choice. And by right choice I am referring to the loving choice. I’ve yet to meet a person who didn’t have some type of moral code (aka principles). Even for …
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