Relapse is what brands us ‘addicts’. Non-addicts aren’t trying to stop, monitor, or manage their alcohol intake. It’s a non-issue for them. And, any addict who says they never relapsed is lying. People … it’s what gets us in the club. We may have stayed clean since ‘detox’ or …
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subconscious mind
So often we arrive at alcoholism’s door expecting that we will be okay with the fact that we want to quit drinking. Most often (if we are lucky) we do not. If we are completely resolved to giving up the drink/drug the odds are that we have done …
Read more →The longer I am sober the more I appreciate the darkness. It forces me to engage. It forces me to see things anew. The very notion of darkness implies that I will need to interact in an unfamiliar manner. The goal has always been to get out of …
Read more →I do not remember the first time I heard these words. Undoubtedly, my thinking was too muddled to let them resonate. I have grown to like them. They are a tool to indicate my level of confusion. I was a product of the “survival of the fittest” method. …
Read more →The world feels like hype. Everything seems exacerbated and overly-epic. Everything has so much meaning, that none of it has meaning. The rawer I get the rawer the world gets. I am questioning everything I have ever been taught. I am feeling miniscule with my limited answers. I …
Read more →Words could never adequately re-create this past week of my life. It was a week of excitement, fear, anger, pain, sickness, confrontation, negotiation, silence, gratitude, migraines, and reflection. The parallels to my alcohol detox are prevalent, but in more ways than I suspected. In the spirit of “Competency …
Read more →Several of my followers have asked, “What actually happens in recovery coaching?” While I talk about different issues with everyone, the questions and answers are shockingly the same: What are your principles? Are you willing to live within them? How can you set it up so you can …
Read more →We’ve decided to make some life changes. We struggle brushing our teeth with the opposite hand (last week’s post). This four minutes a day, how challenging could it be? But it is. It’s becomes inconvenient, too hard, we forget, it’s not comfortable, it’s awkward, it’s just not working, …
Read more →While I try and keep the blog upbeat (solutions, hope) there are days I feel blind-sided by people I love and humanity in general. What are we thinking? Why are we doing this? Where is the compassion? Why don’t we take the time to teach? Why don’t we …
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