The 12-step model is effective but not universally applicable in recovery. Many individuals successfully navigate recovery without attending meetings. Emphasizing personal growth and spiritual foundations, recovery should not be strictly defined by 12-step participation. Support should focus on unconditional love rather than conformity, enabling diverse paths to personal evolution and self-love in the journey of recovery.
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trusting in recovery
I am still trying to explain the awesomeness of recovery to those new in recovery. It’s a challenging topic to describe because there is no logical point of reference for something you’ve never experienced. What I try my best to convey: If you can just dig in for …
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Thank you dad … It’s nice that the memories get sweeter with time. I am still learning to appreciate life while it’s happening. Thank you for our beautiful home. I didn’t appreciate it until I had my own to take care of. Thank you for fun summer days …
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I have a love/hate relationship with ‘feelings’. I’m in the place of pain today. While I have not had a drink in many years, I feel overwhelmed with pain—to the point of wanting escape. Note: I do not want to drink (I hate drinking) I just don’t want …
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Just because I no longer drink doesn’t mean I don’t have an anti-Lisa still living within me. My god, she can be unbearable too. Her bright idea today was to not post. It’s been so long anyway, another week won’t matter. I used to think it was the …
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Relapse is what brands us ‘addicts’. Non-addicts aren’t trying to stop, monitor, or manage their alcohol intake. It’s a non-issue for them. And, any addict who says they never relapsed is lying. People … it’s what gets us in the club. We may have stayed clean since ‘detox’ or …
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My last September Sunday to squeeze in a post. In the spirit of keeping my “monthly post” commitment I’m getting this up here today. It’s a little less polished than I prefer, but—oh well. Personal stuff: Life is good, as my perceptions continue to transform. I am happy …
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I wrote my life in ink, not pencil. I can go back and strike through it, but it can never be undone—erased. I can’t choose yesterday again. Erasers remove the error on my son’s math homework, they do not eliminate, or fix, my yesterday. My yesterday is un-alterable. …
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Ever wonder why you don’t understand sober people? Today’s post is a mini-lesson in making sense of applying another’s advice, suggestion, or philosophy to your recovery. What they say: What is means: …
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If your new year resolution was to get sober, one of two things has happened. I am hopeful, for you, that it was success—statistics suggest otherwise. If you find yourself in the “I’ve relapsed” category there is still good news. Failure provides us with an accurate gauge for …
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